Married Life..oh boy...

Today I've been married 48 days..Boy has the time just breezed by, but I must admit it hasn't been easy (granted I knew it wasn't). Thus far my experiences have been more filled with joy than with misery but sometimes I really think I'm going to go ape shit on him (poor thing).

Before when you were boyfriend and girlfriend you spent A LOT of time together but as soon as you pissed each other off or got on each others nerves you knew that you had a safe haven where you could go back to. At least that was my case, I always knew that I could go home. The first couple of weeks following the honeymoon were HIDEOUS because I was homesick all the time. I moved close to my parents to try an avoid that feeling but regardless the I missed the comfort of my own home... Slowly that feeling started fading once I created my own home.. My furniture started trickling in and finally I had created my own safe haven..

To my up and coming newly weds I must advise the following

"GET READY BECAUSE THE RIDE IS BUMPY".

I've heard all the advice there is to hear about marriage; communication, love, compassion, selflessness, understanding, patience blah blah blah...None of it helps when you're in the middle of a screaming match over who left the bread bag open (trust me).

I think with my little experience the best advice I can give is "PICK YOUR BATTLES WISELY", sometimes the bickering really isn't worth... Another thing that has helped us a lot is having a two bedroom apartment (THANK YOU BABY JESUS). I think space is important and each one of us having our own area to relax alone and then another area to relax together has helped a great deal. He has his "MAN CAVE" where none of the house rules apply. In other words,  he works and has his own mess and I don't mess with ANYTHING! I have the bedroom and the living room as an area where I can watch TV, listen to music with our without him..So if you can dish out a little extra cash for a spare bedroom trust me it'll be WAYYY worth it!

All in all the married life even though it hasn't been EASY has been a great experience. I love my husband and I'd never change him for anything in this world (though sometimes i want to hang him on our balcony and he probably wants to do the same to me..lol)

We're far from perfect but the magic is that both of us make it work with TONS of LOVE and that is the true secret!

Weekend Getaways....

This past weekend was supposed to be "AMAZING, STUNNING & MAGNIFICENT"...Notice how I say "supposed" to. My family and I have been planning this weekend for months. We were all driving to Cape Coral to celebrate my cousin Carlos's wedding (which was great)..

We all took Friday off to be able to get an early start at the sun and the beach...Needless to say that by the time we arrived the sun was gone the rain was pouring! So we tried to make the best of it and hang out at the hotel...We wrapped up the evening early to try and get chance #2 at the beach... Saturday morning we wake up and we're off to the beach only to notice that I had a flat tire! Great... It wasn't just low, it was completely FLAT! So we changed the tire and off to Pep-Boys we went to try and get it patched.. Hence, we all still had a very positive attitude about making it out to the beach...Apparently tires can't be patched when the gash is too large... To make a long story short $395.00 later, new tires and still didn't make it to the beach...

Sigh! At least yesterday was better but I think i'm done with weekend escapades for a while now..

Day #30

Today I've been officially married 30 days (and still counting).. I was told it would be hard but never did I know what I was in for... Boy oh boy!!!  

28 days ago we were arriving to Cancun Mexico 

Our honeymoon was amazing! 

It was full of delicious food

Before

After

 alcohol

 and entertainment (all inclusive)

Everything about the Valentin Maya Resort was AMAZING!!! The people both employees and guests were really nice... It's nice to know that there are truly nice people out there (Miami residents aren't exactly the nicest people in the world)

One of my most memorable honeymoon moments would have to be when Danny surprised with an amazing breakfast in our suite. 

The scenery at our resort was amazing and not to mention our suite. It was one of the best things we could have upgraded to. It was stunning we had three views (ocean, pool and lake)

But the very best part of my honeymoon was MY HONEY and the amazing start to our marriage.. So yes Marriage isn't easy, it's hard and takes ALOT of WORK, but in the end after all work and frustration the pay off is really amazing..

I love you baby and hopefully the next 30 years will be as great as these last 30 days... :)

<3 your wife!

ps: not alot of people may read this but I know you do!

Happy Birthday Christian...

HAPPY BIRTHDAY CHRISTIAN!!!!

September 03, 1993- My older sister Gloria and my brother in law Jim anxiously await the arrival of their first baby boy...

After spending my whole entire summer torturing my sister to play tennis with me (i was only 11) despite her MASSIVE belly (for those of you that don't know her she's about 5'1 weighed about 125 right before she gave birth- she looked like she had swallowed a bowling ball).
I couldn't wait for the arrival of the second baby of our family (Alex being the first), I rubbed her belly every night, and made her drink terrible homemade teas that  according to our mom would "induce her labor", I'd talk to him and plea with him to please make sure he'd make his "GRAND APPEARANCE" during the day so that I could be close... But of course even in the womb Christian didn't listen to me (still doesn't)... Sometime in the middle of the night my sisters water broke and from what I heard she was very calm (she even showered, I would have ran out of the house butt naked), I remember waking up to my sister and Jim not being there and my mom telling me she had left sometime around 5 or 6 (i was pretty upset, I wanted to be part of the action).

Finally after a long labor  Christian James Borton  arrived 

and boy was he a cutie...

<3Our first little gringo baby boy <3

 He's been an amazing nephew, grandson and most importantly an amazing son (my sister & Jim did something right)..He's grown up to be a man of integrity,honor and humility that loves the lord (i almost cry every time I read this)... What more could this family ask for?


Today we celebrate his 17th birthday (can't wait for 18!!!) but also today we Thank god for giving us such a healthy happy loving man...(Yes, you're a man already)

 

HAPPY BIRTHDAY 17th BABY 

(yes I still call him baby, I have that right after wiping his dirty booty)

 

 

PS: If your future girlfriend is reading this get ready he's got about 6 women in his life that are going to be very hard to impress and here they are....

 

Mamita Libia

 Ariana (the little sister) 

 Cindy Johana (the cousin)

 Evelyn (the Diva Aunt)

Doris (Diva aunt#2)

And finally the 

GLORIA (THE MOM)

Here are a few pictures of our Birthday Boy.

August 7, 2010 

Summer 2010

Together at last!

They've always been inseparable..

Like Father like son...

Part of the Cartagena Clan (Ecuador)

 

 

 

 

Summer 2010 "the Keys"

Working hard!

Proud Mom

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Love, Tia Evelyn 09/03/2010

save the drama for your momma!!

Ohhh facebook! God knows we all "LOVE" it and most of us (me included) really can't go more than a few hours without refreshing our page, stalking a friend (or husband) or talking to our friends on facebook chat... 

But I remember a time when AIM was the shiznet... Those of you who are from my era will remember s2r and a/s/l very well..I really don't remember AIM or Miami Chat rooms really ruining anyone's life or relationship...If anything they made most of our lives quite entertaining...That was the extent of my adolescence "social networking"...

But facebook on the other hand can ruin reputations, lives and even relationships... OHHH my arch nemesis..I love to hate you and hate to love you...

But not everything about our dear friend is bad...Keeping in touch with family around the world has been made easier. Sharing memories and pictures is as easy as "tagging" a friend..In our fast paced lives it's easier to post a comment on someones wall and say a friendly hello than to dial their number and catch up..

Status updates really aren't  "whats on your mind" anymore, they are more like "who will I piss off with this status, or how will what I'm thinking be misinterpreted". Forget the days where it was "EVELYN IS AT WORK", now our status updates are mainly jabs at others (that we know are reading)...

But I must say the privacy settings are AMAZING, and categorizing your friends also helps reducing who sees what and when...oh and let's not begin to talk about the "blocking" feature. Talk about disappearing into the abyss! 

I can't imagine how people live without facebook? A friend recently told me "living without facebook is like not having a social security" (makes you wonder huh)

There are times when I think about completely deactivating my page and doing a little disappearing act, but the I refresh the page and read my friends statuses or see their pictures and think "WTF AM I THINKING"!!!

If only we could have all the perks MINUS the drama...

let's start this again...

so i'm going to start ANOTHER blog! It seems my first one was tapped into and now sits in blog heaven..I'm glad I'm able to use this as a forum to vent my frustrations...and lately i'm sure I'll have quite a few...I'm a newly wed (enough said)..

I can't believe I'm able to blog again...(sigh) and all of a sudden all those that I needed to vent about vanished and I find that I have NOTHING to write about...

Maybe I'll start with my wedding... (YAY!!!) I finally tied the knot to the "love of my life" Mr. Danny Casalins...

Almost 7 months of planning, fighting, and stressing passed before me in the blink of an eye.. 

I can honestly say that I can barely remember the ceremony... but i'm thankful for all those that showed up and lit our church and our reception with their great pictures!!.

 In the end I got my fairy tale wedding..(even though we lost our rings) YES! We lost our rings and had to exchange someone else rings at our ceremony...

Fortunately for us there is light at the end of the tunnel and the very next day we found our rings (phew) close call huh!!

Now as a "married women" (eww not sure if i like the sound of that) 

I give all my friends planning to wed soon the following advice:

1. Make sure you have your wedding bands at least 24 hours prior to the ceremony. 

Trust me it'll avoid TONS of stress.

2. In the event that you DO NOT find your wedding bangs 

DO NOT DO THIS 

Whiskey straight will not make your wedding bands magically appear!

3. Don't let ANYONE or ANYTHING seen or unforeseen ruin this day for you...Suddenly, all the little things you worried and fought with people about will no longer matter...

and FINALLY!!!!

4. ENJOY your reception to the fullest! Don't worry about those that didn't eat, didn't have a place to sit, and didn't have fun...Those invited forget they are YOUR GUESTS and they will never be fully satisfied, but it's YOU & YOUR HUSBAND that you have to worry about...

I feel great relief now that it's all over...I don't even want to HEAR a peep about anything corresponding to a wedding...